Have you ever just been cruising through social media and a video will just capture your attention? You stop and watch the whole thing. Sometimes your surprised by the outcome. Sometimes your moved by the outcome. Yesterday I found such a video. The scene: A wedding dance. The video starts with the image of a bride sitting in the groom’s lap. As she stands up, it is revealed that he is in a wheel chair. Then a curious thing happens. Attendants bring out two chairs. One is place on either side of the groom. Two grooms men come out and sit next to the groom. One on each side. The attendant comes back out with a large roll of duct tape and begins to wrap the legs of the gentle men together as if they are preparing for a race on the elementary school playground, field day activity. They wrap arms over the shoulders and then with a great heave all three men stand up. The wheelchair bound groom now stands supported by his best friends. The bride returns to the floor. The music swells. The married couple dance.
What a beautiful image of not just friendship, but of binding love that shows up to support in a time of need. They helped the lame not just walk, but to dance a dance of love.
This video makes me wonder about each of us. So often in our lives we are lame, not just in the physical sense, but in the emotional and spiritual sense. We do things, or others do things to us, that cause us to break relationship. Events and actions occur that make it difficult to walk and dance with our loved ones and neighbors. The trusting honesty needed to be in a good relationship is pushed out with negative festering physiological boils. Then there are the crutches we use to sustain ourselves. Maybe alcohol or work, or sarcasm. We believe these things help us, but it just makes the separation wider.
We like the groom’s men in the video need a binding love that will come along beside us, lift us up and help us enter the dance refreshed and renewed. We need the support of our friends and neighbors, those we know and those we have yet to meet. And they need us; for binding love is a mutual journey, each person bringing a special gift that makes the whole unit better. But how do we get to that place of binding ourselves to others? How do we participate in the dance and offer ourselves in a relationship of mutual care?
I think it begins with a commitment to love. The first step. And who took the first step for us? God. God so loved the world… God made a commitment and bound himself to God’s people at the cross. Yes, it is true. But long before this God also spoke.
“I have set my bow in the clouds, and it shall be a sign of the covenant between me and the earth. When I bring clouds over the earth and the bow is seen in the clouds, I will remember my covenant that is between me and you and every living creature… When the bow is in the clouds, I will see it and remember the everlasting covenant between God and ever living creature of all flesh that is on the earth.” (Genesis 9:12-17)
People often think the rainbow is for us, us humans down here, but that is only one side of the coin. The bow is also a reminder to God, that God makes a promise with all of creation, an everlasting covenant, an everlasting commitment.
We are invited into that commitment. We are invited into the world of caring for each other and loving one another. We are invited into a binding love. God’s olve for us, and our neighbor. And the duct tape pulling us together? The cross and Jesus’ words reminding us that we should respond by loving God and loving neighbor.
“Hear, O Israel, the Lord our God. The Lord is One. Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all you soul, with all your mind, with all your strength. The second is this. Love your neighbor was yourself. There is no commandment greater than these.”
Thank you to the videoographer who shared the beautiful moment with us. Thank you to the couple for being an awesome display of how to love one another. Thank you to the grooms men for supporting their friend. To watch the above reference video please go to https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=298372514163089